Dear
Kwame,
Thank you
very much for all you have done and sacrificed for me all these three
years we have been in this
relationship.Your love is manifest to me through your caring nature,your
commitment and loyalty to me.This is not to say the journey has been smooth
like birth giving as the idiomatic expression goes.Our relationship is just
like any other relationship with twist
and turns,curves and bends,sweetness and bitterness.We have experienced good
times together and we have been through bad times too.But I can boldly say
without a second thought that i would rather spend a bad time with you than
good times with someone else.
It is not
as if i do not get all the messages you have been writing to me to express your
displeasure about certain things i do or how i live my life. I get all those
letters which most of its contents are true though there are some parts that is
far from the truth.I just decide not to reply any of them because i do not want
to seem as a nagging girlfriend because i know how much you, like any other men
detest nagging girlfriends or wives.
Additionally i do not want it to seem like my neighbor who when her husband say
one word,she would reply with ten words. But i think this is the right time to
clear the air, respond to some of your letters,explain some of the things you
say in those letters and clear some perceptions you have about me.
For the
two decades plus that you have lived on this planet called earth,i guess you
have heard that some can live for more than five years with their girlfriend or
spouse without knowing everything about them.You may know all about me, but do
not think you know everything about me.There will by all means be something
that you might not know about me.
It is very
true that you are a jealous boyfriend, i know very much that it's only a fool
whose testicles is stepped on twice.I remember vividly what you told me about
your past relationships and the fact that a married man with a car marred your
previous relationship. And as our elders will say, if you do not tell the
barber the exact style you want him to cut your hair, the barber will give you
a wicked haircut so i understand your sentiments perfectly.it is not a bad idea
that you have resorted to write letters about your displeasure.
For all
these while that we have been together, i can swear by father's knee that i
have never thought of cheating on you let alone to break someones marriage.This
man you see giving me lift since i started work,is a a staunch christian who is
a member of the Pentecost Church Ghana and married with two kids.He works close
o my office and so one day after work while I had tried several times but
failed to secure a seat in any public transport,he offered me a"
lift" when he saw me wearily walking by the roadside and panting like a
pregnant fish.I did not reject his offer since i was so worn out from walking
and this came as a sort of relief.While
i was in his car we chatted about almost everything.It was there that he
revealed that though he lived at Nungua , he always dropped his kids to a
school around Dansoman before he goes to
work and picked them when they close before he continues his journey home.And
the school coincidentally happens to be opposite my house so he then decided to
help me by taking me to work after dropping his kids and dropping me home and
then picking his kids.
You
seemed so surprised that a man who doesn't live at Dansoman where I stay will
pick and drop me all the time-that is the reason.It is normal to get jealous
when a man with two balls just like you picks and drops your girlfriend each
and every day in your full glare but trust me there is nothing more to it.i
agree with you perfectly when you say that now a days the married men are the
"baddest". It's as if all married men during their 3-6 months marriage counselling period are advised to
get a girlfriend in addition to their wives.I can say that about 80% of married
men I know have girlfriends but what is worth noting is that this man is an
exception.This man is heaven -sent,and he would not even nurse the idea of even
proposing to me.He is a devoted christian as
I said earlier and he is soon going to be ordained as a deacon in the
church.
Dear I
have not given you a reason for you to doubt me since we started this
relationship so why are you doubting me now? and even going ahead to tell me to
reject this man's "lift" which we both know it has been helpful
economically.You already know that this is my first job after National Service
and it doesn't pay well, am only using this job as a stepping stone and also to
gain experience.My transportation fare in a month far outweighs my salary and
so this lift is really helping me to even get some little money to save. I know
you would say why don't I ask for support from you, but that is not my thing.We
are all young people working and trying
to survive so I do not want to be a burden on you knowing very well that you
are the bread winner of your family,taking care of your younger siblings.
You have
every right to be uncomfortable with this issue because what married men can do
these days you can not decipher.Last time i was chatting with my colleague Dan
about relationships and he (Dan), stated clearly as if he had rehearsed his
lines "For me ,the day i will see my girlfriend dropping from another
man's car,will be the end of our relationship"
Stop
behaving as an unsecured person, this man advises me and preaches a lot when am
in his car.At other times too we pray and worship from where he picks me to my
destination and so I don't think he has any bad intentions for me.
Even the
holy bible has made it clear that what God has put together,no man should put
asunder. And I have lived by this principle since I was a teenager so it is not
this time that I am a full grown woman that I will break people's
marriages.You are aware of all the
married men who come to me with juicy mouth-watering offers I have rejected.You
know my usual answers i give to them? "I don't do married men"
So you
can clearly see that if I wanted to date
married men,I would have been in such ungodly relationships long time
ago.I respect myself a lot and apart from my parents,you are the only man who
have ever seen my nakedness and i will
not trade my body to any married man just because he owns a container with 4
wheels called car. My dear, do not for a second think that i am like those
girls who are attracted to any container on four wheels. Never!!
Sweetheart,
I just want you to know that I love you
very much and I will always do with or
without a car. Don't let this kind gesture by this God-sent man ruin our
relationship.I trust you very much so I do not even care when you go on
assignments and you have to spend a day or two there, because I know that no
matter what,you will stay faithful to me.
On this
faithfulness shall we build our relationship.
Your love,
Serwaa
By Pamela
Ofori-Boateng-pambelle12@gmail.com
